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Saturday, July 23, 2011
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Ive Learned...
I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.
I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
I’ve learned that you should never ruin an apology with an excuse.
I’ve learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do.
I’ve learned that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I’ve learned that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I’ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I’ve learned that you can keep going long after you can’t.
I’ve learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I’ve learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I’ve learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I’ve learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I’ve learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
I’ve learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
I’ve learned that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.
I’ve learned that your family won’t always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren’t related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren’t biological.
I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.
I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I’ve learned that a rich person is not the one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.
I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
I’ve learned that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I’ve learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
I’ve learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I’ve learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I’ve learned that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.
I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings, and standing up for what you believe.
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
-Omer B. Washington
I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.
I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
I’ve learned that you should never ruin an apology with an excuse.
I’ve learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do.
I’ve learned that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I’ve learned that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I’ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I’ve learned that you can keep going long after you can’t.
I’ve learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I’ve learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I’ve learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I’ve learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I’ve learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
I’ve learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
I’ve learned that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.
I’ve learned that your family won’t always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren’t related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren’t biological.
I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.
I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I’ve learned that a rich person is not the one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.
I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
I’ve learned that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I’ve learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
I’ve learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I’ve learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I’ve learned that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.
I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings, and standing up for what you believe.
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
-Omer B. Washington
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Describing you...
This has to be one of the coolest things I have read in awhile, what happened to the good ole days.
I hope you this makes you smile as it did me!
Enjoy!
I hope you this makes you smile as it did me!
Enjoy!
Monday, May 30, 2011
Advice From Somewhere
ONE:
Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO.
Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE.
Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR.
When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE.
When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX.
Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN.
Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT.
Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
NINE.
Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN.
In disagreements, fight fairly. Please No name calling.
ELEVEN.
Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE.
Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN.
When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN.
Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN.
Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN.
When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
SEVENTEEN.
Remember the three R's:
Respect for self;
Respect for others;
Responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN.
Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN.
When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY.
Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWENTY-ONE.
Spend some time alone.
This came around anonamously, identified as from a "Chinese Tantra Totem" - One definition of a tantra being a statement of principle or religious practice and collections of such principles and practices. It's origins are probably from south Asia such as India and may have followed Hinduism and Buddhism and other related belief and practice systems into East Asia including China.
I haven't verified any origins for these sayings. I don't think most of them are unique to China or Asia. Certainly some have existed in western culture for a long time. (They are even older than me) Some are probably ancient. Some, such as the 'smile when answering the phone' are at least modern variations if not actually recent. But they sound good. If you live this way life will seem happy.
Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO.
Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE.
Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR.
When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE.
When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX.
Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN.
Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT.
Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
NINE.
Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN.
In disagreements, fight fairly. Please No name calling.
ELEVEN.
Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE.
Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN.
When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN.
Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN.
Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN.
When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
SEVENTEEN.
Remember the three R's:
Respect for self;
Respect for others;
Responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN.
Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN.
When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY.
Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWENTY-ONE.
Spend some time alone.
This came around anonamously, identified as from a "Chinese Tantra Totem" - One definition of a tantra being a statement of principle or religious practice and collections of such principles and practices. It's origins are probably from south Asia such as India and may have followed Hinduism and Buddhism and other related belief and practice systems into East Asia including China.
I haven't verified any origins for these sayings. I don't think most of them are unique to China or Asia. Certainly some have existed in western culture for a long time. (They are even older than me) Some are probably ancient. Some, such as the 'smile when answering the phone' are at least modern variations if not actually recent. But they sound good. If you live this way life will seem happy.
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
The road less traveled is where I'm bound
You cant catch a dream if you never try, I'll be chasin mine until I die. <3
Thursday, January 13, 2011
The Greatest Man I Have Ever Known... By Cheyenne Benthin
This post is very special to me, I felt compelled to put this up because I am so proud of my little sister for writing this. This is something so very impressive, because she is only in the eighth grade. She was given an assignment in her English class to write a short auto biography about someone that has had a great impact in her life, and she chose my father. My little sister is the toughest girl I know, she never wears her emotions on her sleeve. I hope you guys enjoy this as much as I did, it proves what a great father we had. :)
The Greatest Man I Have Ever Known.
By Cheyenne Benthin
As people we all search for different things to make our life’s seem more complete, some think these things are in the past, some people think they are in the future. Personally I feel it has to do with the experiences we all have in life that makes the difference. I look at life like a puzzle; it can’t be complete without all of its pieces. Since January of 2009, my life has been missing a very important piece to its puzzle. All my life I've been told, everything happens for a reason and that we all have different lessons we have to learn to realize that. I use to believe that were true, but now I am left unsure. I don’t know why I would have to lose the most important Man I have ever known at such a young age to learn a lesson, I don’t see the reason in “everything happens for a reason”. Although It’s been two years, I still feel like a puzzle missing its pieces. I cannot help that I feel incomplete, or hurt. I feel like my missing piece will always be in the past, no matter how I alter the other pieces the puzzle with still be incomplete.
Jim Russell Benthin was born March 28th 1964, from the time he was born till the time he passed he lived a tough life, but that never stopped him. He always strived for who he wanted to be. He had many dreams, and never gave up on them unless he was forced to stop. He did everything with his head held high; he didn’t pay attention to what other people said. He was the strongest most stubborn man I have ever known, from age 17 to around 21 he rode bulls on a semi professional level. He had always wanted to be a cowboy, and riding bulls was as rugged as it got for a cowboy. He never quit by choice, he was forced to stop after he had been trampled on and broken his back. Even in the hospital he joked about going back out in the ring. Even after that, he was still determined to be someone, he wanted something of his own, and someday he wanted to be up north in a small town. Eventually he accomplished that dream, starting off with nothing handed to him; he took small steps towards his goal proving no one could ever stop him. Jim was the person who never gave up, on anyone or anything. When he started something, he was dedicated to finish it with a smile on his face.
Every Sunday during April-November was NASCAR and you would find my dad on the couch, with his legs on the table, with a beer in his hand, with food cooking in the crock pot. Jim loved his Transam, his transam had 550 horse power, and was 0 to 60 in three seconds, which was another dream he always had, he wanted a Transam, just like the one from smoky and the bandit. His license plate even said bandit. He loved life like no one I have ever known, and he loved all 4 of us kids just as much if not more.
I have always been my Daddy’s girl, even when we argued. I always pushed everything to the limit, but I always knew where the line was. My dad and I hardly ever fought and when we did, he would send me to my room, and then about thirty minutes later, you would find him coming up the stairs, to apologize because he couldn’t stand me being angry or upset with him. I guess it was a bond we had, we couldn’t stay mad at each other. It’s been two years since he passed and I still talk about him like he never left, my older sister and I joke and say he is on a long vacation. Although he is never going to be gone completely, there is still a void in my heart that can’t be filled by anyone else but him, and as hard as it is it doesn’t get easier I just get stronger. I chose to write about my father because he has been, and always will be my biggest influence in life. I wouldn’t be who I am today without that man, and I wouldn’t trade him for the world. I am proud to say that I will do my best to always be as strong as that he was until his last breath, and whenever I feel like giving up, I will remind myself of how hard he worked to prove to me and everyone else life is worth the fight. Even if sometimes we don’t see the reason in “everything happens for a reason”. In loving memory of my father, the greatest man I have ever known, he will always be missed, but never forgotten.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Things that matter, Things that don't.
The past two weeks have been somewhat difficult, considering it has been two years since my worst fear became a reality I wouldn't expect it to be any different. Growing up I knew my Dad had a lot on his plate, I just never really understood how much. No matter what he had going on he wouldn't break, he just kept pushing forward. Losing him made me realize just how strong he was, I have had to step up and take on most of what he carried. It gets hard sometimes, but I know I have a lot of people that rely on me to be the strong one. Most people would just give up, say its not their responsibility to bear, that its too much. Not me, doesn't matter what comes my way, I wont quit. He NEVER quit on me or anyone else for that matter. I won't do it, I will die first. Losing him as been one of the most humbling experiences of my life. Despite the hurt of him being gone, I have gained so much from it. He was the glue that held our family together, and now I am that glue. This post is a little off, but my Father loved everyone as they were. He never judged them for their actions, at least in the last few years of his life he didn't and that is one of the gifts he gave me that I am most thankful for. We are all the same, but we all choose different routes in life. But that is no reason to judge, that very person you judge could be your best friend one day all, if you took the time to get to know them for who they are. I hate being judged, so I try my damn best not to judge others for what they do, because I haven't walked a mile in anyone else's shoes.
Today my Grandpa told me he loved me, and he was proud of me. He is the type of man that doesn't wear his emotions on his sleeve, I always knew he loved me he just didn't know how to say it. I know people in my life that Judge that man, saying he wasn't a big part of my Dads life. But what they don't know is that he was one of my Dad's best friends, my Dad knew he loved him dearly he just expressed it differently. The point is, we all have things that have made us who we are, we all strive for the same thing in life and that is love, before you judge someone, stop and ask yourself what makes you so much better than them? Is it money? Accomplishments? None of that matters, and some day you will see what truly matters to you and how petty all of that was. Life is short, appreciate those around you even if you don't understand them. God put them there for a reason. As for me my three new years resolutions are #1 always fallow my heart, no matter what. #2 Never give up, I can do anything as long as I have faith in God, and myself. #3 Do not Judge others, treat them as I would like to be treated.
Happy New Years Everyone, Lets make a difference!! :)
Monday, November 8, 2010
Country Strong
I was raised to stand up for what I believe in, to stand up for my family, to stand up for my friends, my loved ones, and God. I was taught that everyone makes mistakes, that we will hurt one another, it's apart of life. I was also taught that when someone means something to you, you have their back no matter what. You stand up for them even if they make a stupid decision that you don't agree with, you still have their back. Some of you know me, and some of you think you know me. The some of you that know me, know that I'm not perfect but you know my motive isn't to hurt anyone. You know that I will NOT go out of my way to bring someone down, to disrespect someone, or to be rude to someone. I don't go looking for trouble. But if you mess with what and who means something to me,I don't care who you think you are, if you push me in a corner I will come out fighting. I may be many things but Scared is not one of them.
For those of you who judge someone based on words out of someone else's mouth, I feel sorry for you. It would feel terrible to live by what someone else says, rather then trusting your own judgment on things. I always like to believe there are two sides to every situation, there will always be a piece to the puzzle that is missing. It's your choice if you want to find that piece, or just settle with what someone else said to you. I don't hate anyone, but I do hate when someone goes out of their way to bring you down, they go out of the way to find something to throw in your face. That is my definition of a lost person, and I personally don't have time for that.
Its funny because its usually those who are willing to do anything and everything for another that get hurt. But thats okay, call me whatever you please to, try and pry into my life, judge what I have on this website, or judge me for that matter, pretend to be my friend, listen to what someone else tells you about me, fool me all you want. I may believe you, you may knock me down, but I can promise you once I get back up, you'll never knock me down again. I'll only get a little bit stronger.
Maybe its not me that you should be judging, one day your life will flash before your eyes. Make damn sure that it is worth watching.
"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; Only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; Only Love can do that."
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